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Getting back to business

Getting back to business

Oh my goooooodness. Changes are happening and it feels good! The TLDR version is that my tarot reading services are BACK, but I really want to tell you more about what’s been going on. A few weeks ago I took my services offline for spiritual maintenance. There are two main factors that went into this decision:

First: for a while now, I’ve been guided to create a more personal connection with my clients. Up until now I’ve mainly been offering written and audio readings delivered via email. There are a lot of benefits to this format: I could do the readings at my leisure instead of at a pre-determined time, clients could re-read or re-listen as often as they’d like, and so on.

But there were also some drawbacks, the main one that a reading delivered this way is a little one sided: it’s just me riffing on the cards. Since the client isn’t there in the moment, there’s no back and forth conversation. Sure, we can email each other after the reading to discuss things further, but during the actual reading it’s just me and the cards.

The more I absorb myself in my practice as a tarot reader, the more I see the benefits of using the cards in a more interactive way. During a live reading, there is room for dialogue. The reading becomes a co-creative process. There is a special and transformative energy at work in the exchange.

Part of the reason I paused my services was to think about how I could revamp them to be more in this paradigm of real-time connection. I’ve given some consideration to that, and (at least for now) I am focusing solely on this type of reading. When you visit the current iteration of my readings page you’ll see the option to purchase a one hour tarot reading session, and for now all of those sessions will take place in real-time via Skype.

Second: the other reason I paused my services is, well, to be frank…I was burned out, Ten of Wands style. As a tarot reader, I hold space for people during some very intense phases of their lives. Being trusted to offer support during times of upheaval and soul-searching is a great honor, and it is something I take incredibly seriously. And I LOVE what I do.

That said, I am a highly sensitive and empathetic person. Sometimes the gravity of the work that I do accumulates to the point that I have to take a step back – not only for myself, but for my clients. I never want to show up for a reading feeling drained – that would be completely unfair to those I work with. That means that sometimes I need to take a break to replenish.

In this line of work, checking in with your energy HAS to be a priority. To be of service as a counselor or healer or reader you need to have healthy boundaries, and you must have your own self-care on point. Sometimes that means creating the space for yourself to pause your work and get re-aligned.

Now that I’ve given myself a break and re-imagined the services that I offer, it’s time to move forward! Here are the details about how things are looking right now.

I am currently booking tarot reading Skype sessions for June 2018. To ensure the proper energy and attention is given to each client, I am only offering TEN sessions for the month. Appointments are now being accepted on a first-come, first-served basis. If you are interested in booking a reading, you’ll find all the details here!

I’m not sure how this will look in future months, but I have a feeling that putting boundaries on the number of clients I work with will be the new norm. This will help me stay fresh, present and most importantly – of service to my clients. Quality over quantity.

Although I’m feeling great about my current reading options, I know the only thing constant in life is change. I’m trying to stay open to how my business wants to evolve and what the universe wants me to create. More shifts are coming into focus, but they’re not quite ready to be made public yet!

Thank you for your support as my work continues to transform! It means the world to me.

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The Four Tendencies and the Four Knights

The Four Tendencies and the Four Knights

A couple of years ago I decided to start an accountability system with a friend. I have always struggled to follow through on what I want to complete, so I figured having another person to help me stay accountable would be really useful. I mean, it’s one thing to let myself down, but I definitely wouldn’t let another person down…right?

Although it has been incredibly valuable to have someone helping me stay on track, I was disconcerted to realize that although I’d made some improvements, I was still really struggling to follow through even with external accountability. I described this to my accountability friend and she told me about a book she’d recently read, The Four Tendencies by Gretchen Rubin, which lays out four different ‘types’ of people and how they respond to expectations.

It turns out that I’m what Gretchen Rubin calls the “Rebel” type, which means I resist internal AND external accountability. Oh my gosh! Realizing this has been revolutionary for me. I’ve now shared this framework with several of my mentoring clients and watched it set off light bulbs. It’s a simple concept, but can really lead you to better self-understanding. And with better self-understanding you can find more effective ways to navigate your life.

Having these tendencies as a reference is a reminder that we are not all the same. For example, if I was an Obliger – someone who responds well to external accountability – I would have an easier time staying accountable to my friend. Figuring out what works for you when it comes to expectations is not one size fits all. Understanding your tendency helps you customize your approach. 

Since I see the world through the lens of tarot, I’ve been thinking about how the cards might help you understand and work with your tendency and I think the four knights fit best here. The Pages have a more playful approach, and the Kings and Queens a more mature approach. The Knights, though, they’re in a state of flux trying to figure out what works and what doesn’t. Lets take a closer look at the four tendencies and the four knights.

As you read this, consider which best describes you. I’ve included some advice on how you might adjust your approach to expectations once you are aware of your tendency and corresponding knight.

The Upholder tendency could be described by the Knight of Pentacles.

Upholders respond well to both internal and external obligations. If they say they are going to do something, they WILL do it. It doesn’t matter if it’s a private goal no one else knows about or a deadline set by their employer. Upholders are just as dedicated to the promises they make themselves as they are to the promises they make other people.

You might be an Upholder/Knight of Pentacles if:

Your strengths include being organized, planning and goal setting, consistency in getting things done both personally and professionally.

Your struggles include overworking, being too meticulous, holding yourself to unrealistically high standards.

Advice for the Upholder/Knight of Pentacles:

Remember that your worth is not measured by your accomplishments. Consider where you might benefit from more flexible, especially when things don’t go to plan. Make taking breaks non-negotiable!

The Questioner tendency could be described by the Knight of Swords.

Questioners respond well to internal obligations, but resist external obligations. They want to make sure they have a detailed understanding of what the obligation is and why it matters before they commit. They often research things from every angle and ask many questions before moving forward. If an external expectation doesn’t line up with their internal analyzations they will have a hard time following through.

You might be a Questioner/Knight of Swords if:

Your strengths include looking at situations from every angle, researching all potential options, a desire to focus on what is truly important.

Your struggles include analysis paralysis, putting too much time into deliberation and not enough into action, getting overly fixated on making the ‘right’ choice.

Advice for the Questioners/Knight of Swords:

Remember that there is no such thing as a perfect choice, try to trust that things will work out just fine either way. Set boundaries about how much research and questioning you will do before you take action.

The Obliger tendency could be described by the Knight of Cups.

Obligers consistently meet external expectations, but struggle to be accountable to themselves. They tend to put everyone else first and are the most likely to say ‘yes’ to requests for assistance. Obligers are people pleasers, but have a hard time sticking to things they want to do just for themselves. Gretchen Rubin points out that this is the most common of the four tendencies.

You might be an Obliger/Knight of Cups if:

Your strengths include caring deeply about other people’s well-being, being someone others can rely on, volunteering to help when a need is expressed.

Your struggles include putting your own needs last, difficulty prioritizing the things you want to do just for yourself, taking on more than your fair share of emotional labor.

Advice for the Obligers/Knight of Cups:

As you naturally respond to outer expectations, seek out external accountability for your internal goals and desires. Find a friend who can hold you accountable for the things you want and need to do for your own heart.

The Rebel tendency could be described by the Knight of Wands.

Rebels resist both internal and external expectations. Rebels resist things as soon as they feel like they ‘have’ to do them, regardless of if it’s something they’re doing on their own or something that comes with external accountability. Rebels want to do what they want to do, not what is expected of them.

You might be a Rebel/Knight of Wands if:

Your strengths include being true to yourself, marching to the beat of your own drum, and coming up with innovative approaches.

Your struggles include disdain towards obligation, flying by the seat of your pants, flaking out on responsibilities.

Advice for the Rebels/Knight of Wands:

Instead of making the assumption you ‘have’ to do something, take on the attitude that you WANT to do something. Rebels thrive when they feel autonomous and know they are choosing their actions, not being forced into anything.

What do you think – do any of these resonate with you? Might becoming aware of your tendency help you better navigate your relationship to both internal and external accountability? I always like hearing from you guys so leave a comment. Or I should say: if you’re an obliger, leave a comment because I asked. If you’re a questioner, leave a comment if you consider doing so for a while and decide it makes sense. And if you’re an upholder, leave a comment if it fits into your schedule. And if like me you’re a rebel, leave a comment because you want to.

Further resources:

The Four Tendencies book by Gretchen Rubin
The Four Tendencies for Entrepreneurs article from Forbes
Four Tendencies Official Quiz

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So you want to change your life. Here’s how to start.

So you want to change your life. Here’s how to start.

Lately it has become undeniably clear to me that I need to do some major assessments of the Big Picture of my life. I’ve known this for a while but have only recently really devoted to the process. Oprah says that life talks to you in whispers, and if you ignore the whispers, eventually life will smack you upside the head. I feel like I’m alllllmost to the point of life smacking me upside the head, so I’m finally getting serious about sorting things out and making some changes!

As is often the case, when I notice something coming up for me it also seems to come up for people around me. I’ve been working with several clients lately who are grappling with big questions of what to do with their lives going forward. Maybe there’s some collective energy at work leading a lot of us to ask things like: what needs to be uprooted in my life? What do I want my future to look like? What changes must be made in the present to ensure I am on the right path?

Going down this line of inquiry can be exhilarating – but it can also be pretty daunting. Luckily for me this isn’t my first rodeo. I already have a decent amount of experience doing the dirty work of looking at what’s working in my life and what’s not working, taking things apart and putting them back together. As I embark on this process again myself, I’d like to share some tips for those of you who might be going through a similar experience.

It’s happening, accept it and get on board.

When you feel a pull to dig into the roots of your life, your first reaction might be resistance. This definitely happens for me! Lately I’ve been a bit like a stubborn child: “do I HAVE to think about the big picture? Uggggh, that sounds hard. Can’t I just stay in my comfort zone and stick to the status quo? I mean things aren’t really that bad, this is fiiiinnnneee.”

A lot of people stay in the resistance phase for a long time. I’ve had clients tell me they lived this way for YEARS, knowing there were foundational issues in their lives yet unable to commit to facing this truth. So the first thing you must do is decide that you’re no longer willing to live this way. You have to decide that you deserve more, you have to know that change IS possible even if it isn’t easy. You have to ease yourself out of denial, accept that this need for assessment is really happening, and get yourself on board for the process.

Intuition will guide you, but not on your schedule.

It probably goes without saying that I am a huge proponent of the notion that you intuitively know what is best for you. It is the workings of intuition that let you know when something in your life just isn’t quite ‘right’ for you, and it is the workings of intuition that eventually guide you to what IS right. If you’re reading this, you probably have similar beliefs and experiences.

But sometimes we glamorize intuition and make it seem like this super wonderful thing that will automatically solve all your problems. What we don’t talk about as often is that intuition works on its own schedule and in its own ways. It is pretty rare for your intuition to sweep in and bestow you with a detailed plan of what you should do from here. This does happen sometimes, and it’s amazing when it does – but more often, intuition works in subtle ways.

Sometimes there is a really uncomfortable gap between accepting that something is ‘off’ in your life and being intuitively guided as to what precisely you should do about this. When this happens you may get frustrated or doubt your intuition or try to force it to get to work. While there are things you can do to create more space for your intuition to come forward (journaling, pulling tarot cards, the list goes on), sometimes you ultimately need to learn to let go and wait until the answers are good and ready to arise.

Envision clearly but paint with broad strokes.

Once you do have some intuitive understanding of what changes you need to make, you may feel inspired to start really envisioning what your life could look like from here. This is a huge thing that people who are into “manifesting” talk about. I’m all about visioning, dreaming and creating a vivid picture of your ideal reality. Go for it! But there are a few things to watch for here.

The first is letting your ego get in the driver’s seat. One of the tell tale signs that ego is guiding your dreams is that they are all about what you should want. We all know this happens with more ‘traditional’ people, but remember that this happens even to woo-woo people! We think we should want to be drinking green juice every day, being self-employed as a priestess, so on and so on.

Now, if these are things you REALLY want, that’s cool! But maybe what your soul craves is something completely different than the Instagram-worthy spiritual-lifestyle stuff we are told we should want. You’ve got to clear away all notions of what you should want in order to lean into what is truly the right fit for the shape of your soul.

The second thing to watch for here is getting TOO specific about how you envision your future. I know, this probably flies in the face of what all the “manifesting experts” say but whatevs. Having a detailed plan and a specific vision of what you’d like your life to look like can be helpful, don’t get me wrong. But it can also put you into a sort of tunnel vision in which you are so set on this specific vision that you miss all the other possibilities around you.

As John Lennon said, “life is what happens when you’re busy making other plans.” Don’t get so fixated on your plans and visions that you miss life happening. It can be really helpful to have some idea of where you’re going, but you may find it’s best to paint that vision with broad strokes. The only way to fill in the details is through lived experience in each moment.

Instead of trying to “manifest” a set-in-stone outcome, I find it works best to simply set the intention to manifest whatever is actually in your highest good. It is very possible that you simply cannot yet at this time envision exactly what your most magical future could look like, so try keeping your expectations somewhat open-ended.

You must make a mess to clean up a mess.

Once you’ve accepted change is necessary, given your intuition space to guide you, and formulated some type of vision and broad plan…it’s time to get to work. It’s time to really dig the fuck in and start making some changes to your life. There’s no way around it – you’re going to have to get your hands dirty.

Depending on the magnitude of the changes you’re making, you may find that you have to deconstruct certain aspects of your life. For example if you’ve decided on a new career path, you might have to quit your current job. If you’ve decided a relationship isn’t working, you’ll have to go through the difficult process of ending that relationship. If you’ve decided to change your living situation, you’ll have to get the hell out of Dodge. And this deconstruction can be intense. In tarot, the Tower speaks to this concept. Blowing shit up in your life is usually pretty terrifying and dramatic. And it is almost always messy.

One time I was in the midst of making a smaller change in my life – reorganizing a closet – but it works as a metaphor here. In order to get the closet into a better state, I had to take out everything in it. That meant that the contents of the closet had to be strewn out across the entire room, creating a huge mess. My man, who was helping me with this task, looked at the closet rubble littering the room and said “sometimes you must make a mess to clean up a mess.”

It’s probably the most Confucian thing he’s ever said to me, and I’ve taken it on as an important life lesson. Sometimes there is no easy way to change directions in your life. Sometimes you have to make a daunting and unruly MESS in order to get things all sorted out. You have to be willing to create that mess and face the consequences in order to get things re-assembled in a better way.

There is no finish line.

There is no way I can say everything about this topic in one post, so I’ll leave you with this. Try things. If they don’t work, try more things. Don’t give up if it takes a lot of experimentation and a few epic failures to create your path forward. You can choose to view everything you go through as a learning opportunity.

And there really truly is not a finish line. Once you sort through one cycle of assessment and change, things might settle down for a while. But then you’ll feel the pull to expansion and change again. This is natural, and it is part of being a growing, evolving soul. Allow yourself to constantly check in with your inner state, and stay continuously engaged in the process of building the life that is right for you. It’s not always easy, but it IS always worth the effort!

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A Tasting Platter: The Best of Year Four

A Tasting Platter: The Best of Year Four

Okay guys… I want to start by acknowledging that I’ve gotten off the rails with blogging lately. Creating stuff regularly – be that blog posts, videos, or podcasts – has been an important point of pride for me in the four (fooooouuuuuurrrr!!!!) years I’ve been running the biz ‘n blog. But the past few months have been more erratic than I would have liked.

Even though I’ve sort of MIA from the blog and your inbox, I’ve still been engaged in lots of stuff behind the scenes. I am blessed to be working with many awesome clients, plus I’m dabbling in two Very Big Projects which are currently secret but at least one of them will be announced within the next couple of months!

Even so, there’s really not an excuse for me to fall of the blogging wagon. I miss creating content regularly, it gives me an anchor. So I’m setting the intention to get back on track! And to get some momentum going, I dug through my archives today to revisit some of the good stuff I’ve created within the last year or so.

As I excitedly pointed out above, I’ve just passed my FOUR YEAR anniversary of the weird and wonderful work that I do in the world. Four years of tarot readings and mentoring sessions. Four years of writing, creating, expressing, sharing. Fooouuuurrrr whole yeaaaaars (Oprah voice)! Maybe you’ve found me recently or maybe you’ve been around since day one. Either way, thank you so much for being here. I hope you find some value in what I offer.

I have a tradition in which each year when I hit my biz-blog-aversary, I make a ‘best of’ post to share some highlights of what I created throughout the year. This year we have an eclectic mix of written content and some audio content as well! So take a listen or take a read – below you’ll find a savory tasting platter of grade A content.

When Toxic People Are Healers
This blog post nudges you to reframe how you view the “toxic people” in your life. There’s also a tarot spread for you to try.

How and Why To Make Blackout Poetry
Making blackout poetry has been such a cathartic practice for me this year. This blog post walks you through how to start making your own blackout poems.

Five Tarot Cards To Meditate on For Tough Times
Thoughts on cards to reference when the world seems violent and scary.

How To Read The Court Cards (The Easiest Way)
If the court cards baffle you, check out this really effective system for understanding them. Includes a free worksheet for you to incorporate what you learn.

Tarot as a Therapeutic Tool w/Andy Matzner
An episode of the Key Finding Podcast in which I talk to psychotherapist Andy Matzner about how tarot can be used for healing and self-discovery. It’s such a rich conversation!

How To Give A Meaningful Tarot Reading
This might be my very favorite episode of the podcast. I cover so many specific ways you can make your readings more impactful. If you want to take your readings to the next level, this is a must-listen.

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Wander even deeper into archived treasures: check out the ‘best of’ posts for year one, year two, and year three.

Here’s to another year of creating,

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A Growth Mindset Tarot Spread For Spring (or Whenever)

A Growth Mindset Tarot Spread For Spring (or Whenever)

The Spring Equinox is one of my favorite times of year: regeneration, emerging life, the air of possibility – oh yeah, sign me up for some of that!

This year even more so than usual, the spring equinox energy feels conducive to cultivating a growth mindset. Far from being a woo-woo concept, the impact of living with a growth mindset has been documented through traditional psychological research. The hallmark of a growth mindset is believing that transformation and evolution are always available to you. Contrast this with a fixed mindset, which is anchored in the belief that your potential is pre-determined and beyond your realm of influence.

It makes sense to focus on living with a growth mindset during spring, as spring is quite literally a time of new growth! In order for growth to happen (in the natural world as well as in your inner world) debris needs to be cleared away. Now is a good time to make the conscious decision to shift any stagnant energies within you.

With this spirit in mind, I’ve created a Growth Mindset tarot spread for you to try. The spread positions are inspired by the parallels between growth in the outer world and growth in your inner world. Set aside some sacred time. Take a few deep breaths. Get out your cards and see what comes up. I hope you find something useful here!

If you try this spread and would like to share your thoughts, please do! Leave a comment and let me know how it goes.

PS: Last year I shared some spring cleaning journal prompts for the equinox. If you’re craving even more spring-inspired reflection, check it out!

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The Magical Person’s Guide To Interacting With Muggles

The Magical Person’s Guide To Interacting With Muggles

If you are kinda witchy or new-age or really fall anywhere on the magical spectrum, it’s likely that at some point you’ve had challenges interacting with muggles (non-magical people). I work with a lot of folks who are just starting to “come out of the broom closet” and are squeamish about approaching this topic with their muggle cohorts.

I’ve had personal experience with this as well. Only about five years ago, I was terrified to tell the muggles in my life that I was a tarot reader. Now I’ve reached a point where I (mostly) have a handle on telling muggles what I do, but it hasn’t been an easy road. So today I’m going to share a few tips that might help you interact with your muggle friends, family and acquaintances… it’s almost like I’m Professor Mallon teaching Muggle Studies at Hogwarts (#dreamjob)!

Do not assume that muggles will judge you harshly.

This is something I find myself telling my clients all the time. The truth is that even muggles have a little bit of magic (they just don’t know it) and most of them can sense the energy that YOU bring when you interact with them. If you go into a conversation with a muggle assuming that they are going to think your magical tendencies are bizarre, you will likely project this insecurity outward, they will pick up on it…and then they WILL think it’s bizarre!

This is why it’s so important to cultivate a sense of internal approval about your magical path. You have to know that you don’t need the muggle’s approval. I’ve found that just as they can sense your insecurities, muggles can also sense when you are confident and secure. If you approach a conversation with them and embody an energy of self-approval, they will pick up on that. This doesn’t mean they’ll automatically approve of your magical path, but they’ll often at least get that you’re happy with what you’re doing, and if they really care about you, that will be enough to satisfy them.

Do not try to convince muggles to believe what you believe.

Here is an interesting irony: many of us come to eclectic magical paths because we do not like the strict dogma of traditional religious paths. Yet once we’ve formed our own magical beliefs, we might then try to convince other people that what WE believe is the truth! If you approach a skeptical muggle and try to badger them into understanding your belief system, it’s probably just going to end with both of you frustrated. I mean, how do you feel when muggles try to force you into their belief systems?

There is a whole wide spectrum of humans in this world, muggle and otherwise, who believe a whole wide spectrum of things, and that’s okay. Trying to convince people that your beliefs are valid is usually just a waste of your energy. Live and let live, agree to disagree.

Set muggle boundaries.

There are some muggles you might choose not to reveal your magical nature to. If you sense that it is in any way not safe for you to disclose this part of yourself, remember that you are in no obligation to do so. I’ve talked to a lot of magical people who feel like if they don’t tell EVERY muggle they encounter about their magic, they are being inauthentic. I strongly disagree. This is not being inauthentic – it’s having boundaries, and boundaries are essential.

You are NOT obligated to share your magical nature with anyone unless you choose to do so. If you know in your heart that keeping this part of yourself separate from anyone for any reason is best, trust yourself. You don’t owe anyone an explanation of who you are. Sometimes your intuition will pull you to be honest with muggles about this aspect of yourself. Other times your intuition will advise you to keep your spirituality sacred and secret. Only you can determine which approach is best at any given time.

When you do choose to share the magical part of yourself, the muggles that you’re close with – real friends, and non-shitty family members – should love you regardless of how baffling they find your magic. They might not ever really get it, they might not ever start reading tarot or doing full moon rituals themselves. They might be confused or even grumpy about it. But if they really care about you, they need to be willing to accept you for who you are.

I would be remiss not to acknowledge that there may be some muggles in your life who have an unnecessary amount of vitriol about magic. Those who insist on judging you harshly likely have their own internal issues they need to sort through, and as the old saying goes: it’s probably not so much about you, it’s about them. The best way to handle these muggles is (say it with me now) by having boundaries.

Identifying and enforcing your boundaries takes practice and an unwavering commitment to yourself. Examples of boundaries you might set with muggles in your life include: it’s okay to disagree with me, it is not okay to berate me. It is okay to believe differently than me, it is not okay to tell me my beliefs are “wrong.” As Oprah says, you teach people how to treat you. If a muggle repeatedly ignores your boundaries, that’s when it’s time to re-evaluate their role in your life.

Muggles gonna muggle.

Haters gonna hate, magicians gonna make magic, and muggles gonna muggle. That is to say, most muggles are totally wrapped up in living their own muggle lives, and most of them won’t give you much attention either way. I point this out because when you’re just beginning to open up about your magic, you might tend to ruminate about what muggles will say, what they will think, and how they will react. In reality, most muggles aren’t giving you much thought at all, they’re too occupied ruminating on their own narrative. For better or for worse, we are all the center of our own story, and it’s actually kind of liberating to remember that most muggles aren’t really thinking about you at all.

Embrace muggles’ curiosity.

Don’t assume that all muggles are closed-minded! In five years of revealing myself to various muggles, the most common reaction I get is curiosity. A lot of muggles have never been exposed to magic, and they might just want to ask you some questions and figure out what this is all about. You never know when you’ll come across a muggle who senses the magic dormant within themselves, and seeing you take ownership of your magic just might inspire them to do the same.

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Finding Home (again and again and again)

Finding Home (again and again and again)

pictured: Finding Home zine by Annie Ruygt

I have this reoccurring pattern of getting lost and feeling like I’m not quite dwelling in the center of myself. Lately one of the things that’s been helping me with this is making doodles about what’s going on in my inner world, and today I drew this map to represent the current terrain of my psyche:

I’m currently re-reading The Power of Myth by Joseph Campbell with Bill Moyers. There’s a part where Campbell quotes Novalis, a 19th century poet who described the place where your inner world and outer worlds meet as “the seat of your soul.” That little HOME star at the center of my map is the seat of my soul. The other stuff is what I find myself trudging through to get back there.

I’ve been at this journey long enough to be certain that this quest to find HOME, to find the seat of my soul, is basically the theme of my entire life. It’s come up for me again…and again. Oh and look, now again!

I don’t want this to be a “woe is me” post, because the truth is that on some level I can always sense an undercurrent of meaning in all of this. Even when I’m mired in the fog of fear or tucked away on the isle of apathy, there’s always a sense that HOME is still there. The only time it’s reaaallllly hard to tap into the undercurrent of meaning is when I’m in that wretched desert of depression. That place is no joke.

Somehow, even though I keep going through these unpleasant terrains time and time again, I keep finding my way back home. It is a tender process. It can be a confusing process. The specifics of navigation vary depending on the exact circumstances. But I’ve picked up some wisdom along the way, and eventually, I find my way back home.

I think part of the reason I’ve become intimately acquainted with this landscape ties into the work I’m here to do in this world. All of the points on this map are universal aspects of the human experience that manifest uniquely for each one of us. My clients are often going through their own seas of self-doubts and groves of glumness. It would be arrogant to say I can totally understand the individual traits of this territory for anyone but myself, but I do think my direct experience gives me a useful empathy for other people’s journeys.

One of the most important things for me lately has been remembering not to freak out about the fact that I’m a little lost. There’s a quote that’s always stuck with me, I can’t find the source but I think it was a Buddhist monk who said something like: there will always be suffering, but you don’t need to suffer over the suffering. In this instance, suffering over the suffering would look like “OMFGGGG I’m tripping over the sediment of old stories once again, OMG NO WHY this can’t be happening, I thought I already overcame this?!? NOOOO!”

It’s much better to be honest and curious – not panicked – about where you are. “Hmm, I see I’m tripping on the sediment of old stories again. That’s interesting. I wonder how I might progress from here?” Is a much more effective approach than suffering over the suffering.

I know from past experience that I have to be really honest with myself about what’s going on. It’s always tempting to try to convince myself that I’m fine and that everything is really good, no problem, nothing to see here! But ignoring the lostness just makes it even worse and more confusing and more tricky. You’ve got to look right at it.

Another thing that’s been quite good for me lately is reminding myself of the things that have helped me in the past. This requires me to be really patient and gentle with myself, but also really straightforward and authoritative. Carrie, love, I see that you’re lost again. Perhaps it might help to return to that book that shifted your perspective once before? Or return to that fulfilling creative endeavor you abandoned?

(This explains why I’m re-reading The Power of Myth and doodling again even though I’ve long been convinced I can’t draw.)

Due to the impeccable timing of the universe, I also recently received a lovely little zine from my friend Annie. It’s called Finding Home: Tips and Encouragement to Help You Create a Roadmap to Your Self. In the pages of this zine, Annie gives poignant advice on practicing magical self-love. Finding messages in dreams, connecting with the moon and brewing your own teas are just a few of the topics covered here.

Essentially, Annie’s zine walks you through creating a map that is a sort of antidote to the map that I posted above. The zine is available on Annie’s site for only $5, and I do recommend it if you enjoy incorporating mystical elements into your self-care practice.

(Annie and I are also working on a reaaaalllllly exciting project together. We haven’t officially announced it yet but we will be soon and your hints are that she’s an artist and I’m a tarot reader and eeeep!!)

So, this is where I am. I see it, and I accept it. And I know that I will keep finding home again. And again. And again.

Because that’s just what I do.

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Are You Being Led By Spirit or Dragged By Ego?

Are You Being Led By Spirit or Dragged By Ego?

If you can see your path laid out in front of you step by step,
you know it’s not your path.
Your own path you make with every step you take.
-Joseph Campbell

I’ve experienced the truth of that quote above again and again (and AGAIN!), and it’s something I’ve been thinking about a lot lately. Your ego very much wants to see the entire path laid out in front of you. Your ego wants to know exactly where you’re going and what to expect along the way. But if you want to live a heart-centered life of adventure and spirit-guided experiences, your ego kind of needs to STFU.

The longer I’m at this whole “living life as a human thing” the more clear I am that embracing an authentic path means accepting the unknown. Bushwhacking your way through the wilderness instead of relying on the well-worn trails.

Today I offer up episode 13 of the Key Finding Podcast. In this episode we consider the question: how do you know if you’re being dragged by ego or led by spirit? I describe how cards 7-10 of the tarot’s major arcana – The Chariot, Strength, The Hermit and the Wheel of Fortune – speak to the nuances of this distinction.

Download or stream on Soundcloud below, or search ‘Key Finding’ wherever you listen to podcasts: 

Now to talk about something bittersweet. TLDR version: This is the final episode of Key Finding. I talk about this near the end of the episode. More details below if you are interested.

When I started the podcast, I gave myself permission to think of it as an experiment. I wanted to try something new, but I didn’t want to feel stuck if it didn’t feel right. Before I even started Key Finding, my spirit was like “yo, you should really get a co-host instead of doing this alone, you’ll enjoy it much more if you’re collaborating.” But my ego was like “nah it’s all good I’m just gonna press forward.”

You’d think I’d have learned not to ignore my intuition by now, but what can I say? This shit is hard sometimes!

There are many things I have enjoyed about doing the podcast. I’ve enjoyed sharing my thoughts in a new format. I’ve enjoyed extending my confidence in my speaking abilities. Most of all, I’ve enjoyed hearing from those of you who have been listening and liking the content.

But something has felt a little ‘off’ about the podcast. I miss writing. I have a hard time talking to myself for 35-40 minutes (#introvert #talkingtoyourselfisweird). So even though my ego is feeling kinda iffy about this whole thing, I am tuning back into my spirit.

And of course, since Joseph Campbell was right all along, I don’t yet know exactly what my path will look like going forward. But I have a few ideas:

-I will return to writing posts on my blog. I miss writing not only about tarot, but also about broader concepts of self-discovery, creativity, and connecting with wonder in the human experience.

-Audio versions may be created to accompany my written blog posts. This way I can keep up my speaking skills and also connect with those of you who prefer information in audio format.

-Another podcast may be on the horizon, this time with a collaborator. The wheels are in motion, but I’m not yet sure how/if/when this will happen. We shall see.

So many unknowns! I am fully in the energy of the Hermit and the Wheel of Fortune. It’s kind of uncomfortable not knowing exactly how all of this will go, but I trust that I am on my own weird, winding, authentic, magical path. 

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Synchronicity: Being Real About How You Spend Your Time (Key Finding 012)

Synchronicity: Being Real About How You Spend Your Time (Key Finding 012)

Partake in a serving of synchronicity today as I pull some cards and let them spark the conversation! Topics covered include:

  • being brutally honest with yourself when you make excuses for not getting things done
  • strategies for doing more of what you really WANT to do with your time
  • how to hold yourself to realistic expectations

Plus, some real talk about the future of this podcast.

Leave a comment below and lemme know what you think!

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Running a Business: Hard-Won Lessons & Personal Growth (Key Finding 011)

Running a Business: Hard-Won Lessons & Personal Growth (Key Finding 011)

Let’s get down to business, shall we? I get asked about running a business a lot. So today, I’m gonna share with you some of the lessons I have learned in my own business journey.

Topics covered include:

  • why you shouldn’t be ashamed of staying in your day job
  • the connection between your business and your self-worth
  • handling self-doubt in business
  • navigating the capitalist paradigm when it doesn’t align with your values
  • and so much more!

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RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert
The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron
A Small Orange Web Hosting

What do you think? If you have thoughts or questions about this episode, leave a comment below and let’s chat!

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